Thursday, March 05, 2009

I could be wrong.

I frequently am..

Let’s have a hypothetical (not) scenario, shall we? You have a couple that married, produced a child and than divorced. You later remarried and ostenisibly your son was integrated into this “blended family”.

Your son however states to his close friends more than once (over a couple of decades) that he has “”the family I was born with and the one I chose.” Humm…

Your son spends nearly every holiday, his birthday and his vacations with his chosen family- not you. Humm.. Except for Grandma, because she’s cool like that.

Your son is dying and the people that got him into an experimental treatment protocol, praying they could save him, and the people that were there dealing with the doctors and held his hand as he slipped away were his “chosen” family- not his blood relations. Humm…

A “Mother” that goes on a cruise while her son is in the hospital is not a Mother.

A “Father” that has to delay a funeral because he has to work it into his schedule is not a Father. (Especially if you’re Jewish- that’s just disrespectful.)

And now suddenly the chosen family isn’t “good enough” to participate in the memorial.

Would that not tell you that you are beyond fucked up? But that’s just my opinion. Perhaps I’m being unduly harsh, I can be like that, I can be a judgmental bitch that way,

14 comments:

booda baby said...

Well, normally I'd say 'no one asked me, but ...' and then go and give my opinion anyway. But THIS time, you actually DID ask, so how lucky's that?

What exactly is the point if we're not always honing our finer judgment. Yah, yah, 'it's all good' my ass. I HOPE to hell I never forget how to judge; glad I know how to forgive, but that judgment goes a long ways towards making sure I'm surrounded by the genuine and the good and not just people who show up and weep at funerals.

Judgment, ho! (You know, really, that didn't come out right.)

Willym said...

Judge away.... I'll give you a call later today.

Doralong said...

Booda- I really do try and keep the judgmental to myself most of the time. In this case- forget it the ho is gonna judge.

Wills- it's commenced, trust me! I mean WTF??

sageweb said...

Wow, that is unbelievable..it amazes me there are heartless people in the world like this..but who am I to judge?

yellowdog granny said...

someone needs some serious asskicking

Sling said...

You don't have to stick your fingers in a light socket too many times,to judge that it's a bad idea...

citizen of the world said...

If someone is beyond fucked up, isn't then a gievn that pretty much NOTHING is going to make them realize that?

Elizabeth said...

Even Buddha would have said, "Y'all are total assholes!" and smacked them upside the head.

Doralong said...

Sage- I really don't get it.

granny- I'm thinkin'!

Sling- very true.

Citizen- an excellent point.

Elizabeth- precisely.

more cowbell said...

That whole blood is thicker than water thing? Well, sometimes. Maybe even often. But not always.

alto said...

"Who am I to judge"?

Well, yeah, usually, the underlying intention behind that makes sense.

But in the world in which we live, increasingly we are defined by lines, stands, and boundaries. There's nothing wrong with defining and drawing your own. At least it's definitive.

Doralong said...

Al- Oh it's definitive all right. It does however make me wonder a bit about the type of person I thought I had grown in to.

alto said...

Of course it would, and that's natural; harsh self analysis being the bitch that it is.

Though for the record, as someone looking in with the benefit of arms length abstraction; it doesn't make me wonder. At all.

Kold_Kadavr_flatliner said...

Wanna nekk in Heaven, girl? I'd love to nekk with you. And we can spend as much time as needed to fulfill you. I'll be having a BIG-ol, kick-ass, party-hardy, too, celebrating our resurrection beyond the clouds. Meet me Upstairs, k? God bless you.